At first I thought this site was very funny, but after a few days it didn’t sit right with me. I think we can all agree that he’s excellent in bed, but an awful human being. For those of you who he has hooked though, I wrote this for you.

After I left Phil, I completely fell apart. This felt horrible even more because he was right, again. I couldn’t stand him when he was right. Only two weeks out from no contact, someone actually asked me why I was so upset. They said if I hadn’t been so codependent, it wouldn’t have happened. That he was seeing other people and there was nothing stopping me from doing the same. My eyes welled up from tears and I just stammered that I didn’t choose to be abused then walked away.

I was in 3 relationships prior to meeting Phil, and I did not display codependency. I’m not a people pleaser, I have learned to be selfish and hard with my boundaries. That is how I was when I met him. But, I became codependent in the relationship because he GROOMED me to be, and he brainwashed me to let go of my values/morals to fit his life for supply, and trauma bonded me to him with such a great amount of skill. I had no knowledge of what a narcissist was, what gaslighting, or lovebombing, etc. looked like. To this day I look back and see how masterfully he manipulated me on so many levels.

He chose me. He stalked me on dating websites until I finally gave in. Others have been chosen for their GOOD QUALITIES. We were all good women before we met him. He saw how happy, full of fire we were. Toward the end be would say I had a light in me that he fell in love with, but he hasn’t seen it in a long time. He wanted that light, so he took it then blamed me for giving it to him, pretending he never took anything. That is why he hurt me– not because I was codependent weak prey, and neither are you.

Before Phil, my boundaries were strong– we are not weak people. But I wasn’t aware that he was a predator? I thought he was someone who loved me, so I’m not going to use the boundaries I would use when dealing with a hostile stranger. I’m going to use the boundaries I use when I’m with someone I love– is it my fault that he took advantage of me there?

I remember the state I was in. I was in constant fight or flight, I could not sit down and concentrate. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t work, I couldn’t even shower/feed myself, because I was waiting for him to scream or call me to argue. I was terrified for months on end. And he thought it was hilarious.

He held me captive, I had no ability to use my time as I pleased. I was made to tolerate more and more, slowly like a frog in a boiling pot of water. People do not usually tolerate this– that is true, but neither would a frog jump into a hot pot of water. We did not want this. I did not want this. To get a frog to sit in a pot of hot water, waiting for death, imagine the skill of the one manning the stove.

If I have anything to say, my takeaway from the over one year of no contact is that none of this was your fault. No matter where you are on your journey, a spoiler and something to internalize, if you haven’t reached this realization– absolutely none of this was your fault. Do not blame yourself for a second.

Phil and I were messing around for awhile when out of the blue I started getting yeast infections after every time I slept with him. He made it clear he was seeing other women, and that’s cool because I was seeing other guys.

At first I thought my pH was off, diet or something. But then he got all pissy one night and we didn’t see each other for a minute. Guess what? No more yeast infections! I didn’t figure it out until I saw him again.

As soon as I was good to go, I went and slept with more guys than normal to test my theory. Didn’t get even the hint of another infection. Went and saw him. You already know it!! Got another one!!! And I didn’t even get to the worst part. He didn’t care when I had one!! I tried but it was just too nasty. It made me nauseous because he went down on me then expects me to kiss him?!?! No thanks dude!! I’m out!!

He always made me feel like I did something wrong…didn’t call for a week and then he texted…I saw his name on my phone screen and it made me sick. My stomach tightened, my belly hurt, I was sweaty and nervous. All of this escalated into panic attacks. When it was already clear that he was throwing me away like a hot potato again, I wrote him one last message. My heart pounded in my throat, I thought I was going to puke. Everything inside me was shaking. No one had ever made me feel this way before. He never responded.He really never cared. It felt like I died inside that night. That’s all I wanted to say.

I had suspicions, but this site proves it! I was seeing Phil for awhile before we had sex. He refused to wear a condom, so I turned down his advances. Well eventually I gave in. A month or so later, I’m watching TV in his room, he’s checking the food in the kitchen, and his phone is buzzing every other dang second. I glanced over and saw the names of three different women sending him text messages. And he told me I was the only one! I calmed down after a few and thought maybe they were just customers. I made a joke about it when he came back, he got mad saying he couldn’t trust me. I saw a whole new side of him, and let’s just say it wasn’t pretty, let me tell you! I should’ve left him right then and there, but next thing I knew we were being intimate. So I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Not even a week later we’re in bed and he’s got his phone on the tv playing porn. I hated him doing that. Killed the moment and I didn’t feel so special anymore. Well things weren’t going well. He got up and went to the restroom with his phone. BUT he forgot his phone was on the tv. I stayed quiet. I saw him flirting with damn near every woman on every site that exists! Plenty of Fish and all those types of sites. But I still stayed quiet. Then he got on Facebook and was hitting up other women thanking him for sex! I was so mad I couldn’t see straight. I got dressed and left. I have never been so insulted in all my life! So all that time we were having unprotected sex, I can guarantee you he was doing the same with all those other women. Thank the Lord I didn’t get any STDs!! That was a close call! DO NOT TRUST HIM!

Man there are some haters up in here! Lemme set the record straight yall! He bangs women. ANY WOMEN!!! Says it right up on his profile! How you gonna fall for a guy like that??? Bitch please. Get real!

Lupe Lady – Houston, TX

Phil is the most fantastic lay of my life!! Almost worth the herpes and chlamydia. This man is nasty!

Heather – Houston, TX

This man is a thief and a crook!

Marta – Galveston, TX